Communication online is a very hard thing. While trying to share information and my care, some how I still manage to be taken wrong, resulting in conflict, and feelings getting hurt. Even with classes in communication, and NVC, and relationships, I found myselt at a loss this week in a group that means a lot to me. Yet another reminder of life lessons I still need to work on.
One of the many reasons I homeschool is to raise moral children who know how to be in relationships that are happy and support all involved to meet needs and so all can thrive. Family values I guess you could say. Not having a wonderful example of this in my own home growing up, there is a learning curve I am trying to over come myself.
What I would ask anyone that sees conflict in my words and fear it is directed at them, is that they please try and imagine my words comeing from their oldest and dearest friend who means and wants only the best for them. This old friend trust them to do the best they can, but always wants to try and help as we can not know everything and none of us are always write. Judgement does not fit into any of that. Let us not asume it. This is a hard lesson for me, to trust others to care as equally as I do. I find this so very easy with some of my closest friends, my husband, my children. Others are trying though, thus I know I need to try harder to improve myself.
While going through some trying times this week a gem of friend posted something I badly needed to see at just the right time, though not directed at me and I do not think she knew how badly I needed it. I hope here it brings you a smile:
http://www.loveandforgive.org/take_action_practices.php
In closing, I am left thinking about a phase on the bathroom in my grandfathers home “Kind words cost nothing, they make us rich if we use them.”
I am not sure where he got those words, but I miss seeing them. I miss him. He was a very smart and kind heart and I am so thankful to have the things he did teach me in my heart to pass on to his grand children. They will never know him, but they will know much about love in part thanks to him.
– For the love of homeschooling,
Your humble blogging mommy goddess.
