My son with his bright pink nails and his Spiderman PJ’s. Because he wants to paint them. Because he is cool enough to pull it off! 🙂
QUESTION from another parent: My son was sneaky and hid candy in his room even though he knows we do not allow it. Should we punish him and if so, how?
This is my response, your millage may vary of course
Sneaky really bothers me but I think it is important to figure out why to help come up with better solutions. If our children feel safe with us, feel like we are fair and listen, I think sneaky will happen less if at all.
My children teach me things all the time, finding the reason to a behavior my son taught me is very important. This is how; My 5 year old would sneak his sisters nail polish and paint his nails, perfectly mind you with no mess, but would cry when caught. He was sneaky and stoll and that is not ok. However the REAL issue though was that he didn’t think anyone would let him, he thought he would be picked on, and he didn’t have trust in his family to let him be himself. The sad thing is not the sneaky part, the sad thing is that somehow he did not trust his own family to accept the things he likes that don’t hurt anyone.
So pick your battles, and find out the reasons behind actions. If the rule is no candy in the room than take it out of the room and come up with a solution to the reason why he was sneaky. He didn’t do it just to disobey you.
NaNoWriMo Day 7 Update: I made my word count again today. I found online chat word wars to very helpful in shoving my inner editor in a closet so she does not get in the way of pure insanity, um…. I mean creativity. Ya, thats it. Right…. LOL
Week 2 is normally hell, so far none of my writing buddies have dropped out, but a few need to catch up as this week historically is bad. Just. Bad. Good luck!
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Kim@Madeinaday
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Hey, just checking in from MBC! I like the blog name… I would describe myself as a little crunchy too!
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Hi there from another MBC member. Stopped by to check out your blog and am now following. I agree we have to pick our battles. Punishment is not my favourite thing but sometimes we have to do it and sometimes it’s more of a discussion and see what happens next or again hmm.
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Michelle
Stopping by from MBC. Love your blog. I was a preschool teacher before quitting to be a SAHM. I definetly learned to pick my battles, and also every child responds to punishment differently. Some are more strong willed than others. 😉
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