“We are apt to forget that children watch examples better than they listen to preaching.”
– Roy L. Smith
Our children are reflections of us in so many ways. While I believe they are born with personalities all their very own, they learn from watching us. Words can have an impact but I truly believe that watching us is how they learn best.
A friend posted about raising her sons in her faith, how they watch her. My first thought was that they watch how much she does, they must see her stress. They must see all those times she needs help and Dad is taking a nap or watching TV. I worry for her and wonder how she can be so amazing while doing so very much on her own and being so upset by it. I did not tell her this so clearly though but rather commented like this:
I remember often that our children are always watching. I remember that I specially want my son to see how he should grow up to treat his wife, like a partner, like a treasure, and I hope he goes up be like his father, a man that changes diapers, washes dishes, and does laundry! I hope my daughters grow up knowing they can find a guy that will treat them like a princess, that they can strong, and that they can take turns with their loves saving one another. I joke with my husband often, only one of us can be having a hard day at a time, tomorrow we can switch! 
I think on my own situation, my worry, and how this troubles me. I have a pain condition that has been effecting me for years but was not understood till recently. Often it keeps me from going out, from having a lot of energy, from doing as much as I once did. It makes it clear that my husband does so so much. Some days I homeschool from a sofa, some days is even a PJ day in bed with the kids and a bunch of books! What might they learn from this? My husband tries to make it clear to them that I do a great deal that they can’t see. I am not sure words help though. Some how I hope there is a balance, and I really really hope that soon my Drs find a treatment to help make things at least a little better.
I am far from perfect, I know we all are, we must keep trying though. Our children are watching, they are our reflections.
