No-one can prepare you for motherhood. Exhausted from childbirth, you’re suddenly left with this tiny human being who you are wholly responsible for. Many new mothers can get depressed over sleep deprivation. Other may get doubts over their abilities as a mother and think that they’re failing their baby. In actual fact, most mothers only fail at one thing – getting help when they need it. Here are just a few of the ways that you can get support when you’re struggling with a newborn.
Don’t turn down help from family and friends
If your friends and family want to help, let them. Many of them will enjoy looking after your baby whilst you take a nap or do household chores. Others may be willing to help with tasks such as cooking you a meal or helping to tidy the house. Don’t turn people down in fear that they’ll think you’re not coping – by getting help you are coping.
Get involved with online mum communities
There are many online communities for connecting with other mums and getting advice on concerns you may have. Online guides such as the What To Expect Mom Culture Awards list some great sources for mums. Follow other mothers on social media, read blogs and participate in forums – it will help if you’re starting to feel alone.
Visit charity-sponsored children centres
There are many children’s centres as ran by companies like Sure Start that are great places to go as a new mother. Staff at these centres can babysit your child for a few hours or a whole day whilst also being available to give advice and even help with employment opportunities. They can help you until your child is five years old.
Open up to your health visitor
Your health visitor is there to check not just on your baby’s health, but your health. If you’re concerned over bleeding or pain, make sure that you tell your health visitor. Also let them know of any mental health concerns you may have. Your health visitor will be able to assist you whatever you issue is.
Protect your mental health
About 10 – 15% of all new mothers experience post-natal depression. Many others are likely to have periods of feeling depressed without seeking diagnosis. If you suspect that you may be getting depressed, talk to your doctor who may be able to prescribe anti-depressants. For those that are ardently against medication, there are still plenty of natural stimulants such as exercise, listening to music and socialisation.
When I became a first-time mom, I wanted a few weeks with my newborn and husband to myself. I think I felt like I was creating my identity as a mother. By the time my second child was born, I was asking my family when they were coming over!
YES!! All so important!! I feel like those first few months are THE hardest moments ever!! Trying to heal while trying to keep everything in order is crazy!! Plus your emotions are everywhere!!